Stefan Molyneux:
Well, for starters, one of the reasons Christianity thought sex was corrupt and evil was because child rape was almost universal in the early middle ages...
I assume you mean early marriages. No matter how old the girls are when they were married, consummation usually didn't happen - in the case of most women - until age 16. Yes, for princesses royal, the age was sometimes 12. But popular literature of the 20th century has overblown it - 12th century handbooks on marriage state that the girl should be at the very least 16 and her husband over 20 before consummation takes place. This wasn't an aesthetic opinion - but a medical one.
But, like everything else in the middle ages, people's views of sex were entirely conflicted. Sex was a right thing - in order to produce heirs, and Jesus of course did say to be fruitful and multiply. Sex was a wicked and evil thing - according also to the Church, who thought carnality a mortal sin. It was the highest ideal - in the traditions of courtly love, which did almost more to shape the noble's mindset in the high middle ages than did Christianity. (Accounts of nobles who never even bothered to go to mass are pretty common - but everyone at least paid lip-service to the ideals of courtly love.) Eventually it was decided by church doctors that the enjoyment of sex was the bad thing - as long as it was done to get heirs, there was no problem. Huge tomes were written on whether it was ok to have sex with your wife if she was pregnant - trying to decide if that was the sin of carnality or not.
What was it like to be female? Depends entirely on time, place, and class. In the 12th century among the high-born of France, it wan't horrible. In the 14th century among the peasant class... god, I can't think of a worse time to have lived. Women in most times and places were confined to places near home, though of course there are great accounts of women who travelled over half the world with no male guardian. There were great female writers, ecclesiastics, even rulers in their own right. But we know of these, in large part, because they were exceptions.
As for childhood... The problem was... that there was no real concept in the medieval mind of childhood. There is very little mention of childhood or children in any of the practical manuals that were written. We have manuals written for women on the management of estates, on fashion, on manners, on how to employ the best servants, on how to make oneself beautiful, and 10,000 other things... but no manuals on how to care for children. Children were not seen as things to be protected or nurtured. There is one certainty in medieval literature: any child mentioned will always die. In every romance, in every novel... they all die. One took up adult pursuits as early as it was feasible - sometimes even earlier than 7. That's why I think medieval people were mostly so juvenile. They were trapped. And not allowed to be children when they WERE children. So they acted like children as adults.
I'm not sure how to convey any of this, LL, and I'm rambling methinks. Am going to cut it off here. But... the middle ages was specifically designed, I think, to breed broken people. Much like now.
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