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This is dedicated to my wonderful girlfriend Chay. Who continually inspires and supports me.
All
my life it has been driven into my head what a woman is and what she is
like. I have always been told this as if it is an absolute truth. Then
of course it is always fallowed by some warm hearted but resentful
phrase such as "oh women, can't live with em, can't live with out em".
But as I started to go out in the world and meet women these
stereotypes didn't necessarily seem to be true. Some women I met were
very emotional, some where not. Some were very kind hearted and some
where not. Some where very independent and some where not, and so on, I
am sure we have all heard these stereotypes.
I have a little
theory that applies to both men and women but sense I am a man and I am
attracted to women I have made that my focus.
It is my belief
that most men that complain about "the way women are" are the same men
that make it a point to date a "hot" girl or perhaps a better way to
describe it, a girl that meets up with cultural standards of
attractiveness. Don't you think its safe to say that if a girl makes
it point to be at the cultural standard for attractiveness then it is
also very likely that would do the same with her personality? I think
it would be safe to guess that most people are not only trying to meet
a cultural standard of appearance but a cultural standard of every
kind. Of course this is where we get religion and patriotism and all
that nonsense. The definition of who is "hot" who is "patriotic" and
who is "a good religious guy" is really just an extension of this joke
we call culture.
Don't get me wrong, I do invest time in my
appearance in order to have a more pleasant social life as I am sure
all of us do to an extent. And I definitely think there is something
to the idea that how you dress can communicate who you are. My point
is not that we should all stop cleaning our selves, buzz our hair and
stop wearing clothing but rather that, if you are attracted to
mediocrity, conformity, and cultural standards then that is exactly
what you will get. Not just in physical appearance, but on every
level. You will probably find a religious girl, who loves her country,
is physically attractive, sweet tender and emotion, maybe a little
illogical but ya know only in that kinda cute submissive way, and wants
to be a homemaker.
If that's what you want then congrats, its
not that hard to find. And you will probably have a nice mediocre
relationship, raise pretty mediocre kids and have a pretty average
experience in general.
How ever this is not what I am looking for, and not what I have found in my own life.
Perhaps the time a great man becomes an average man, is when he apologizes for his honesty
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