I am a college student and I am planning on moving this
summer. My parents are paying for my apartment, tuition, and groceries. I am
trying my best to make a clean cut from my family. I will be working this term
and borrowing the rest of the money I need from my maternal uncle. After this
term I will be dropping out and leaving the state. I would appreciate some guiding
questions because I have some feelings that I am having a difficult time
understanding.
I feel worried that my mom will not take my move seriously.
I might be afraid because I think that my mom will contact me anyway and try to
continue the relationship. Her destructive persistence could be making me
scared. The family story (from my maternal uncle) is that my maternal grandma
was very manipulative and repressed my mom. That is why she has childish
behaviors like collecting toys. When she speaks to me she coos at me like a
child. When doing an RTR, my mom gets angry but quickly apologizes once I react
to her anger. My mom spends her entire day doing chores and working – I feel
like she is a slave. She describes herself as happy but my impression is that
she is deluded and naïve.
I don't think that my mom can accept my emotions. When I told my parents that I was unhappy, my mom was completely surprised. I feel like my mom would hire a private detective or something to find me after I move because she would not understand that I do not want her in my life. Is there a reason why I am concerned with this?