I will be going to the family reunion on my father's in a few days. Although everyone is generally 'kind and friendly' to me it's a far from relaxed experience. This seems to all stem down from my grandmother (my father's mother) who calling her nasty would be an understatement. Evil and manipulative would be more accurate. She tends to be nice to me but I happen to know she is absolutely horrible to my mother who I'm very close to. She blames everything that happens on her and has even accused her, without any reason, of attempting to kill my farther. Not only this, but I know that she's said horrible things about me to my mother including saying that I was mentally challenged and that I would fail at the piano, all, of cause, without any reasons. These remarks are all made to her directly and not through my farther.
My farther has always been very angry at his mother for this but has never been able to stand up and defend her. He has been more behaving like an awkward adolescent, effecting his behavior in his personal life. This has been starting to have destructive consequences in my direct family causing arguments and conflicts between him and my mother, and distressing me and my brothers.
My grandfather, who we get on with, is in complete denial, and does not want us to split off from them. A few of the rest of the extended family are teaming up with my grandmother.
Of cause my farther should confront his mother directly to put an end to this. We all want him to but his far from assertive. So I'm not sure what I should do. Her behavior is effecting me but not directly so I don't know what I should do. My mother is not going to the reunion for obvious reasons.
Any advice?