Hey everyone,
I have been listening to Freedomain radio and watching Stefan's videos on YouTube for nearly a year now. My girlfriend (sw33tlibery) recently joined this message board in hopes of finding similar minded people to help her with some issues she is dealing with. I have to thank all of you who have participated in her intro post. That post plus Stefan's book have helped her organize her thoughts and get started on the path to healthier relationships. It's a tough and painful start, but I think it will be very positive in the long run.
At the suggestion of my girlfriend I purchased a copy of On Truth. I haven't read a book since Atlas Shrugged that I have become so immersed in. It has started to open up some wounds that I have been avoiding for awhile. Before I read this book, I think I consciously made a lot of decisions about my friendships that have helped me to keep only the friends who share my core values, and get away from my parents who discouraged some of my values. Despite my conscious efforts in the past, I am realizing that I never really faced all of my anxieties and fears that were fueled by bad teachers, friends, and mistakes that my parents made. Both of my parents are fairly good people, and love me for the right reasons (and express those reasons), but they did make some crucial mistakes while I was growing up. My mom was controlling and used many intimidating techniques to make sure she was always "right". To this day (I am 25) she still says, "Just wait until you are my age and see if you thought you were more right than me." She does it in such a mocking, condescending tone that I realize that she is still insecure and unable to accept that I do know more than her, and that I am right. It's painful to experience that, but I have been able to deal with it better now that I understand why she behaves that way. So, the next crucial step in my life is to learn more about all of my anxieties and fears and make sure I never transfer them onto my relationships with others, especially my girlfriend, who I love and respect more than anyone on earth.
Guess I should get to introducing myself some, although the above does give you some insight into my character. I am a 25 year old entrepreneur. I own my own web design and marketing company and pride myself on running a company that is ethical and works only with rational individuals who hold similar business ideals (private message me if you'd like more info). I started my philosophical life as a confused atheist, moral relativist, libertarian. When I met my girlfriend I read Atlas Shrugged and eventually began to call myself an Objectivist. VERY recently I have started to realize the inherent contradiction with Objectivism's support of the state and no longer consider myself an Objectivist. I do hold Ayn Rand as one of the greatest philosophers ever, however I think she made a crucial, dangerous, destructive error when she called for the necessity of a state. I am happy to see emerging philosophers like Stefan who are not afraid to challenge all ideas.
I look forward to participating more on these boards. Since I have broken free of the Objectivist mindset, I do have a lot of questions and plan on posting them here since this community seems a lot friendlier than Objectivist communities.
I also have a blog if you are interested in reading more about my philosophical views. PM me if you are interested.
Look forward to some good discussions!
MAF